Is it a culture ?

What say YOU!!

a) Child before marriage b) Pregnant before/during marriage c) Marriage and the n pregnancy.

I have been thinking of this for a while now ( especially wen I tried buying yam yesterday...lol i'll explain below) and I have come to the conclusion that somehow in our heads and our heart we have absorbed this as one of our culture and I find something wrong with it. My post won't be long but I would like to get ur take on the matter.
I have noticed that B is d fast growing trend among our people and I wonder if some people like me can survive if we refuse to follow the standard set by a number of couples and society?Thank God I ain't got dat pressure! I see C as my answer any day,any time cos being pregnant shouldn't be a pre-requisite for tying the knot. Some people say "What if you marry her and den u find out she can't take in? Den we wld av married a man into our family" or de say "She is delaying to giv us a child" and so feel justified to put pressure on d couple to do sth by either making sly remarks, suggesting a new woman to support the man since the MAN he married won't do something or make cruel jokes ( an example of one is {THIS IS A TRUE CONVERSATION}
Husband's Aunty- "Sarah how r u? How are ur parents? How is Bingo?"
Sarah - Aunty everyone is fine. But aunty why r u asking about Bingo?
Husband's Aunty - " Why won't I ask about Bingo, wen u av not given us a child to ask about den I av to ask about d one we can see"

My point is God is the giver of dese bundle of blessings and also people should plan for children. The cost of living is unbeliveable now adays see me, see trouble oh..... I wanted to cook dinner for me & Man utd so I decided i'll cook vegetable stew with smoked fish and boiled yam, as I got to d mallam dat sells yam and pointed at one tubar he said "N700, madam" I asked him to repeat and he actually did. I turned round without a word cursing him under my breath and walked to buy 4 miserable fingers of plantain for N200 and boiled it instead. Wen got home, I sat in d parlor and drifted into starting a family and d present cost of living. (Dis tin pain me cos na dis season yam de sweet well, well ).
Starting a family needs some planning which includes saving a considerable amount. My colleague said to register for ante-natal she paid N50,000=, this so called classes she doesn't attend cos of work and now she wanted to pay for delivery and all and d hospital said N150,000k. (which we have to also consider the hospital) I told my colleague "oh baby!!!! u no go consider to born for house?" . We all laffed but is it really funny?. How long does it take to plan a wedding, recover from d expense, get preggers, d expense of d event, go back to work, raise ur kid, run d home, av d next kid and continue the cycle again?
Why do we let society pressure us into things dat we aint ready for(financially)? When should couples have d "raising a family" talk? etc.

I would like ur views and ur selection (A, B, or C)?

Have a lovely week dears - mwah!!!!

Never Forget

Wellsbaba Put the music to my blog.

:1. Put Your iTunes/ music player on Shuffle.
2. For each question, press the next button to get your answer.
3. YOU MUST WRITE THAT SONG NAME DOWN NO MATTER WHAT!!!
4. After you’ve answered all of the questions, tag 5 other people and then let them know they’ve been tagged to do the meme themselves.

IF SOMEONE SAYS “IS THIS OKAY” YOU SAY?
John Legend - Ordinary people. I say dis cos heck sths could be ok and also it may not be.

WHAT WOULD BEST DESCRIBE YOUR PERSONALITY? -
Timberland - D way I are. I can only be d way I are but people got a beta idea of who i is. (I don jam english..lol).

WHAT DO YOU LIKE IN A GUY/GIRL
Enrique Inglesias - Rythmn Divine. I like people who have a rythmn in dia life. Everyone has it.

HOW DO YOU FEEL TODAY?
Mary J Blige - Just fine. I feel fantastic cos d akpu a. k. a loi loi and white soup with goat meat and stock fish I just ate has guaged my belle. I can dance pass d 9ja gal wei enta guiness book..uuhh!!!

WHAT IS YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE?
Aerosmith - I dont want to miss a thing. Its good sometimes to try things and not miss out on stuff. SOMETIMES OO!!!!!

WHAT DO YOUR FRIENDS THINK OF YOU?
kolomental:faze Many know of dis serious case, cos i'm unpredictable.

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR PARENTS?
Keyshia Cole - Heaven Sent. I saw dis song on nyemoni and my folks av dia moments of angelic status, I luv dem.

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT VERY OFTEN?
U2 and Mary J Blige - One love. Sometimes I tink why d world can't see each oda as 1.

WHAT IS 2+2?
Kylie Minogue - 2 hearts. I am in a kylie phase and i aint sorry about it. She has dis upbeat/dance/pop type of songs. I like.

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR BEST FRIEND?
P2 - No one. Love dem.

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE PERSON YOU LIKE?
Chris Brown - With you. Its lovely to be with dis man.

WHAT IS YOUR LIFE STORY?
Colbie Cailat- Bubbly. My life has been ..........I thank God for my life. Its been intresting and will continue dat way. Amen!!!

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU GROW UP?
Sandy Thom - I wish I was a punk rocker. lol!!! I really would have been wonderful in d entertainment world, cos I love music. I still get time to be a punk rocker.

WHAT DO YOU THINK WHEN YOU SEE THE PERSON YOU LIKE?
Clay Aiken - the way you make me feel. He is d ONE person dat I av completely been myself with and I am blessed to av him.

WHAT DO YOUR PARENTS THINK OF YOU?
Maxwell - Fortunate. LMAO!! de tink i'm a bit lunny but de still feel fortunate to av me. Hey, I got my mom's name so it gotta mean Love.

WHAT WILL YOU DANCE TO AT YOUR WEDDING ?
Faith Hills - Breath I feel my wedding is like magic and d person I am with is makes me ............words can't explain.

WHAT WILL THEY PLAY AT YOUR FUNERAL?
Madonna - don't cry for me argentina. D words fit d day but here i'll refer to all present as argentina. hmm....

WHAT IS YOUR HOBBY/INTEREST?
Talking heads - once in a life time. I heard dis song wen I was younger and it makes u wanna try tins cos its once in a life time. (Warning - try only good tins o, abeg!!)

WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST SECRET?
Roxette - Vulnerable. Yep!! its hard to believe dat I am so soft. It upsets me to not be as tough as I want to but sometimes its a beautiful tin.

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR FRIENDS?
Seal - Amazing. My friends are a wide selection of different people and de r special in dia many ways.

WHAT SHOULD YOU POST THIS AS?
Take That - Never forget. Dis song is wat i feel about dis post cos it reminds me of my past, present and future + d end(funeral question). Its appropriate.


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I hope you guys do a good job. I'm watching you. lol Av a nice weekend. Mwah!!!!

The Evil look

A friend sent this to me by mail and I tot i should share it with u all. My sis also put to bed 3 weeks ago and then my cousin and then my friend. All ladies had boys...so CONGRATS ladies and I pray u all remain blessed.

Hope u all are doing fine.....takia and be good.